“Maybe your baby does not need very much sleep” 


Have you had anyone say that to you when you voiced frustration about your child not sleeping?

Recently, several parents have told me that family members and even people from the medical profession have told them it is “normal for some children to not sleep much; maybe your child just doesn’t require very much sleep”. I had a mother of a two year-old tell me that her daughter was sleeping about 4 hours per night! The mother was exhausted but she was being told that was normal for her child.

Adults require less sleep than children. If you the parent are exhausted with the amount of sleep you are receiving, your child is even more exhausted. If you are bed-sharing with your child, remember your child needs a lot more sleep than you do.


As adults we might cover up our signs of tiredness by drinking coffee, eating more, showing little energy or having a difficult time focusing mentally. Our babies and young children are going to cover up their tiredness with hyperactivity. Sometimes they will be fussy or cranky, but not always. The young child might not look exhausted but will feel lousy. Young children might not know how it feels like to be well-rested if they have never been able to experience it.

How much sleep does every child need? It may vary a small amount how much sleep one child needs compared to other children, but the sleep recommendations apply to all children.

Sleep needs according to the National Sleep Foundation for 2015 are:

Newborns (0-3 months) need 14-17 hours
Infants (4-11 months) need 12-15 hours
Toddlers (1-2 years) need 11-14 hours
Preschoolers (3-5 years) need 10-13 hours
School age (6-13 years) need 9-11 hours
Teenagers (14-17 years) need 8-10 hours
Younger adults (18-25 years) need 7-9 hours
Adults (26-64 years) 7-9 need hours
Older adults (65+ years) need 7-8 hours

Lack of sleep can affect our bodies, especially long-term sleep deprivation. There are an increasing number of studies pointing to lack of sleep contributing to depression, obesity, a decreased ability to learn for school-age children and preschoolers. Behavior problems in children can also be attributed to lack of enough sleep. The two year-old who I mentioned earlier who was sleeping only four hours per night, was having many behavior problems.

Will your child just outgrow their inability to sleep? Probably not. Our children must be taught to sleep. Some children learn healthy sleep habits very easily. Other children need additional help to learn sleep skills. I work with families to help their children learn how to sleep.

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Sleep is a necessary life long skill for health and happiness.

Helping Babies Sleep

Arlene Fryling

Arlene is a registered nurse and certified sleep consultant for children 0-5 years. She has cared for premature, sick, and many healthy babies. For over 15 years she has taught expectant parents how to care for their newborns through classes teaching basic baby care, infant massage classes, and moderating support groups for new moms as they deal with parenting issues.

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